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ELABORATE
 in response to soulight...   I AM DIER NEED OF HELP GETTIN MY CAR FIXED I AM A WIDOW LIVING IN HUNTSVILLE ALABAMA ,MY HUSBAND COMMITTED SUSCIDE AND LEFT ME IN PROBATE COURT TRYIN TO START LIFE OVER MY CAR BROKE DOWN AND IM STRAPPED FOR CASH I WORK EVERYDAY TO PAY BILLS PLEASE SOMEONE TELL ME WHERE TO GO ,DONT HAVE FAMILY HERE BUT I NEEDED A CLEAN BREAK.
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lolapma
I am writing on behalf of my very good friend she lost her husband this month and she is only 21 and has two very young children. Both babies still use diapers and milk. She has applied for several jobs and hasnt had any luck. She is having alot of financial issues and doesnt even have money for diapers. If anyone can find it in their heart to help we would really appreciate it... thanks
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dollyp

I am not a widow, but I know what they go through especially in my part of the world.

I am trying to seek help (financial and othr forms of support) for widows in my home church here in Nigeria, in Africa.

I will appreciate any help or direction that I get from everybody.

Thanks.

My e_mail address is dolaagboola@yahoo.com.

 

 

 

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new to the family

Hi AidPage Community,

Boy am I glad I found you. I'm writting on behalf of my mother-in law ever since she lost her husband she just hasnt been able to get back on her feet.  I'm new to the family but I'm willing to help out. she is in desperate need of financial help.  Lump sum help. Between myself and my husband who are just starting out we will be willing to make restitution, monitaritly and through labor, what ever help we recieve. Please respond immediately she is facing the loss of her house and she has already ran out of time she is in bankruptcy.  You can E-mail me at julieacuatzil@hotmail.com

                                     Thank You and God Bless You.

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SherryBerry

My heart goes out to you and every family who has loved ones that are away and fighting for our right to be..  I know in times like these that is hard to hear.. I can tell you I KNOW you have a stairway of prayers for you, your family and your loved one from all of us...

 

God Bless you and just remember this... Your loved one may not be here in human form....But they NEVER leave you, they are with you and lives inside you.

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ROBIANGEL
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this was awesome... thank all of you for reaching out to me...it meant alot to me...i will get back to you all later i just can't write right now...but thank you and God bless

robin

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Anonymous40784
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Who Knew,

These words you have written are precious.  Absolutely beautiful.

Thank you for sharing such an inspirational message.

God bless you,

Anonymous40784

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Anonymous40784
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Hi Robin,

Sometime when we lose a loved one it is too painful to talk about that person.  I agree with you, I'm sure this is the case for your mother-in-law.  Perhaps, seeing the kids reminds her of her son, and at this time bring about pain.  I know this is painful for you and your kids because it is at this time you need to reach out to her in order to have a piece of your husband to hold on too (as well as to be closer to her).

It is said that time heals all things.  This has not necessarily been my experience when I lost a loved one.  However, I have noticed that after time (alot of time) the pain has lessoned.  However, everyone handle grief differently.  Not only that, that same person will grieve for one 'loss' differently from another 'loss'.

It is my prayer for you and your family that God will take the pain away, leaving you only with the good memories.  I pray that your family will unite during this time as well.

God bless you,

Anonymous40784

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Anonymous

I have read your post and sadly, this is all I could come up with. I apologize, but it just feels so inadequate, If you choose to delete it, I wll not be offended.

 

 

What do you say? How can you help someone grieve a loss so profound? No word seems right, every touch seems to cause pain. Every memory, a flood of emotions so strong, it rips at our heart. We wait to hear them come home. To feel their nearness, their touch, their breath – we feel only emptiness inside. A hollow, a black void, we think can never be filled.

 

We relive every moment, every nuance, every subtlety that they were over and over again until the pain drives us away. We think there will never be another sunrise, another day, another life without them. If we could have just one more day…

 

Would we change anything? Their little irritating ways that we complained about? The lack of communication between us? The last fight we had and never apologized for? Would we change how we looked, how we behaved? Would we love more and fight less? Would we appreciate more and complain less? Would we look deep into their eyes and see their soul and know we were destined to part again one day?

 

A bond has been broken. Tears flow, never ending. A life has been extinguished too soon. Taken too early from this world and thrust into another so far beyond our reach, we grieve for our loss and we fail to see their gain. They feel no pain. No sorrow, only joy. Life beyond our expections. We cannot fathom what lies beyond our realm. But they do and they will wait patiently for our arrival. Until then, we will face our lives here, the emptiness, the bitterness, the defeat, the joy, the love, the humanity of it all. Until that day, when we pass over and the cycle begins again…

 

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ROBIANGEL

if someone just wants to write with encouraging words that is much needed also...
how long does it take before the pain goes away of loseing a spouse and a brother...
my mom and other brother are grieving and hurting and my mother in law does not want to talk to me because she is dealing with the loss of her son my husband by not talking about it....i hurts her too bad and all i want to do is talk to her about him and feel closer but she has only talked with me for about 5 minutes since it all happened...
i have his kids that he gave me and i would hope and pray that she would want to be with them some....
any way ..
merry christmas

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soulight

Another one , for people in the military :

THE SOCIETY OF MILITARY WIDOWS (SMW) was founded in 1968 by Theresa (Tess) Alexander to serve the interests of women whose husbands died while on active military duty, of a service-connected illness, or during disability or regular retirement from the armed forces 

http://www.militarywidows.org/

 

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Elaine of TSA

Based on Life Events

Another way to qualify for pro bono financial planning assistance is by considering your current financial situation. If you are the victim of a disaster, have recently experienced the loss of a loved one, lost your job, experienced serious illness, or are deeply in debt (or considering or recovering from bankruptcy), you may be eligible for pro bono assistance.

 

http://consultaplanner.org/public/index.html

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Anonymous40784
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Lord,

 

Please comfort Don and Bris, both who have lost their wives.  Uplift their spirits.  Amen.

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Elaine of TSA

Important links for Children of deceased:

http://www.comfortzonecamp.org/camper_info.asp

http://www.comfortzonecamp.org/other_grief.asp

 VIP**

 http://www.comfortzonecamp.org/life_bridge.asp

 

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soulight

This is a great idea for a new page .

Here are my contributions. Some are for sudden death , violent death and other bereavement and grief  concerns.

 I hope and pray that anyone that has to go through these things will get some comfort and help from this page.

soulight

ONLINE GRIEF AND BEREVEAMENT RESOURCES and support

 

COPING WITH UNWANTED CHANGE-when you lose a spouse

 

WHAT TO DO WHEN SOMEONE CLOSE TO YOU DIES

 

GIFT FROM WITHIN - recovering from trauma and tragedy

 

VICTIM ASSISTANCE AND COMPENSATION PROGRAMS

 

THE VIOLENT DEATH BEREAVEMENT SOCIETY

 

 

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